Okay so I’m in a long distance relationship. I was lonely and horny one night so I went online and started talking to this guy which led to phone sex and even me sending videos of myself masturbating. I haven’t told my boyfriend but he told me he has spoken to other girls but wants to be loyal- even talking about marriage. I feel guilty. I’ve always been the ‘good girl’ and never done anything like this. Any advice? Sorry if this is all over the place. I can’t ask anyone else. Love your blog!

Wow. Okay. So first of all never tell your boyfriend what you did. Ever. Okay? It’s a secret and you better keep it because it will hurt him if he finds out. There is no point in needlessly hurting someone. 

So this open relationship thing…those are really hard. I could never do one, and you don’t have to either. If he’s not the one, then maybe it’s time to open yourself up to what you obviously want, which is to explore. 

I don’t think you make a very good cheater. The guilt is eating at you hard. So my advice for you specifically would be to do what you know is right. But DON’T tell your boyfriend what you did. Promise me. 

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