How do you not fixate on your appearance being obsessed with sex? Have you had issues with it younger at all, perhaps? I’m a female with body dysmorphia, I feel I need to be hot to fuck who I want (‘ideal standards’ nonsense) I know it’s not the case but body dysmorphia tells me otherwise.

I have bipolar disorder, and part of that is body dysmorphia for me. I try not to focus on my body at all, to be honest. I focus on my inner qualities instead. My worst problem is pictures. I’ve found that when I take a picture, I always hate it immediately after I take it. But I’ve found if I hold on to a picture and look at it 3-5 months later, I can actually see myself more objectively and I tend to like those pics better. So when people ask me for pics and I decided to send them, they are usually 5 months old or older. 

When I’m with a guy, I’m not focused on how I look. If I were to focus on that, it would be a huge problem. Instead I focus on the guy and pleasing him. I try not to think about how I look at all, ever. I figure if he’s fucking me, he must think I’m hot on some level, so I’ll go with it. I only look in the mirror to get ready in the morning and to take off make-up at night. I’ve found that the less I look in the mirror, the better I feel. Truly, life is not about how you look. It’s about how you feel. So focus inward, not outward. 

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